It can be motivating to believe that you have the power to make huge differences in your life, just through simple lifestyle changes. And with all the information we have available to us, many of us are hyper-aware of the necessary steps to get to where we want to be. It’s as if health is a trend right now, and it’s definitely on the fast track.
Sure, we have made great strides on the health and fitness front. But while we have so many sources with the latest and greatest ways to control how we look and feel, I think unlearningsome of it may be the real step in the right direction.
Have you ever thought that with all that we can control, there is just as much—even more, that we can’t control?
Letting go of certain idealist expectations may be the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. By trying so desperately to manage certain aspects of your body, such as getting to your ideal weight for instance, you may be resisting a part of yourself that makes you, well, You.
I’m sure you’ve heard lots about metabolism—how some of us naturally have a faster-functioning metabolism while others have slower ones. It’s fast when we’re young; it slows as we age. Yet despite this knowledge, you may still find yourself questioning why your body is not changing. You’re doing everything they say is “right.” Why am I not at my ideal weight? Why do I not look the way I want to? Why I am still flawed?
I believe that this is precisely the thought process, the one that so many of us are familiar with, that is destroying us. It is taking all of our physical traits and putting them before any of our values, our thoughts, our ideas. It is turning you against the person who should be your best friend. Having a toxic relationship with yourself is dangerous. We all must resist the phenomenon.
This idea of doing everything in your power to alter the way you look is what leads to extreme dieting. People feel like they need to be extreme in order to reach their ideal image. And the truth is, for most people, you do. And that is exactly how you know that something is not right. If you have to cut back on calories to the point of being in a constant state of hunger or if you have to eliminate something as natural and essential as carbohydrates (gasp!), then maybe that ideal weight isn’t so ideal after all.
When you are taking care of your body just to look a certain way, you have stripped all that goes into taking care of yourself down to its unimportant factors. Eating healthily to be kind to your body and mind, exercising regularly, sleeping enough—these are all small victories that deserve celebration. Don’t let your end goal get in the way of enjoying the true pleasures of feeding yourself good food and more importantly, self-love.
True, we can’t control everything. And maybe accepting that is the best thing you can do for yourself.
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