Many of us are told we bottle things up. I have been told the same. I find that I don’t emote and I keep my concerns to myself. I try to always be positive and happy. But it’s okay to not be okay! We all have our worries. And when we keep them buried deep inside of us, eventually, they all spill out. That is inevitable.
It’s like a glass that you keep filling with water. If you continue to pour water in that glass, it will overflow no matter what. But if you pour a little bit out a time, it will all stay in the glass.
If you let a little bit of your concerns out at a time, you can help avoid being flooded with doubt.
Don’t underestimate how valuable talking to a close friend or family member is.
It can be hard initially to ask people for help. I have discovered that I don’t want to feel like a burden or bother people with my relatively minute issues. But it’s important to not belittle your inner battles. No emotion that you feel is insignificant. Every feeling deserved to be recognized, no matter how trivial it may seem to you.
Sure, there is always someone who has it worse than you. But we are all on our own journeys through life and that’s just how it is. This does not mean that because you live a good life you always have to feel 100%. This does not mean that you’re selfish if you are stressed. This does not mean that you shouldn’t worry. It’s nice to be aware that you live a good life, but again, it’s okay to not be okay! No matter where you are in life.
When we restrict our fears and worries from being known to those who care about us, they may become too much for us to bare. And at once, every little thing may seem to come crashing in on us.
When we let others into our inner circle of thoughts and feelings, we can learn about how to deal with our stressors. It’s often easier for others to give you advice than for you to discover it on your own because when you are overwhelmed with your feelings and clouded with emotion, it’s difficult to reach clarity and view life practically.
I’m always amazed by how much better I feel by a simple chat with someone I love.
You may find that you’re the first to reach your hand out to someone in need, but it’s okay for you to use that same hand to wave in the air for help. Good friends love helping their friends digest what’s going on in their lives and sort through their thoughts.
You are not weak because you ask for help. You are brave for recognizing that you need it…because everyone does need it at one point or another.
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