Faking It & Making It

Faking It & Making It

This summer has become the summer of discovering what I want my lifestyle to look like (and taking the action to manifest it). In my mind, it’s currently pretty clear. With this image and the knowledge that it is possible to create my ideal life, I have jumped in head-first, fully confident that I am in the right direction.

And it is this confidence that is making all the difference.

I have been putting in diligent time and careful thought to identify what I want and who I want to be. I have then been putting effort towards becoming that.  It’s a process to get there (wherever “there” may be – I don’t believe there is a final destination), but I am working to create my ideal life, day by day.

I have been putting in diligent time and careful thought to identify what I want and who I want to be.

I have been placing myself in situations that will set me up for this lifestyle. When I do this, I can say for certainty: this is my life and this is what I want my life to be. I feel that presenting oneself with confidence is important in cultivating success, but that doesn’t do much if you don’t truly believe you will reach that success.

Try asking yourself these questions (and answer with confidence!):

Do I truly believe that I belong here (wherever “here” is for you)?
Um, of course I do.

Am I living my ideal life?
Yes. Absolutely. I’m in love with my life.

While you can fake it till ya make it day in and day out, you must believe that you’ll make it in order to successfully do so. The progression is something like this: you believe you’ll “make it,” then you start acting like you’ll make it and then – voila, you made it! When you act the part, you become the part.

My friend and summer roommate, Maclaine, and I have been practicing the act of executing, rather than questioning and doubting whether we’ll make something of our plans.

One of the most important ways we’ve done this is by spending time with people who we respect, who have lives that we admire. We’re rolling with the people who make us want to get better, to think bigger. These are the people who also had enough confidence to believe that they could end up where they are now. The people that never doubted their path or doubted that they could accomplish what they have accomplished.

Will I be able to make this happen?
Yes, why wouldn’t you?

These are the people we wouldn’t mind “becoming” (not to suggest we want to lose our identity or want someone else’s life, but more in the sense of ‘you are who your tribe is’). With this commitment to spending time with the right people, I’ve been learning to open my heart. This hasn’t been easy in the past and I attribute that to not having the full confidence to know just who is worthy of letting into my life. I now feel more ready than ever to take this on.By being intentional about where we put our efforts and energy, we are designing our lives.

One of our favorite parts of this execution plan has been “dressing the part” – which translates into being confident in our own skin, confident in who we are and what we stand for (Maclaine’s “California” pants, hoop earrings, my new black heels and a make-up free face are some prime examples).

Another crucial part of the plan includes engineering our schedules to ensure we have time for activities that are important to our personal development and time for things that make us feel GREAT. Where there have been opportunities, we’ve lunged at them. Where there haven’t been opportunities, we’ve created them. The goal is not to feel “okay” and to be “content,”  it’s to be ecstatic and confident about our day-to-day and about the path ahead.

Where there have been opportunities, we’ve lunged at them. Where there haven’t been opportunities, we’ve created them.

We've been pumped about life, excited for every new turn, certain in every action. After all, the day-to-day that you live becomes the path ahead. This is your path. This is your life.

I have chosen not to tiptoe. I want to always be running, certain that the life I lead is the one I’ve purposefully designed. If you care about having a certain lifestyle, you have to own it. Fake it if you must until you become it.

Stay peachy,
Mariah 🍑