Ever since I first discovered the quote from Gandhi, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony,” I’ve paid more attention to how my actions line up with my values and thoughts.
It’s funny - I feel like at this point in my life I know a good amount about what I need to do to be successful, happy and grounded. These are simple day-to-day habits that keep me in check. And I am the type of person who definitely relies on these silly little things to make me feel whole.
...But I don’t always follow through. I am such a routine person, probably (definitely!) to a fault. And I know what I need in order to feel like myself, to feel inspired, to be at peace. Yet sometimes, everything is up in the air. There are definitely things I could do to bring more structure to these weeks. But I’m starting to be okay with the fact that part of feeling alive is recognizing that life is uncertain. And we are too. Sometimes we just need to let go of this perfect world we’ve created in our heads. And discover ourselves outside of staying within our routines.
One of my own personal reasons for sometimes neglecting what is important to me comes from one of my biggest downfalls: the inability to say no. Whether it be related to work or school responsibilities or friends. I don’t want to miss out! This past week and weekend, for example. I really needed to rest up, but there was just so much going on. It’s hard for me to decline. But it’s also so important for maturity. And for protecting my own space. My friend Milana always tells me: “protect your space like it’s your own child. It’s the only thing you have.” And I try, I really do. But sometimes it doesn’t happen.
I think it’s something we can all relate to. We know what’s best for us. But there are times that we do the opposite. I think it’s important to follow what we know is best for ourselves, but this deviation from feeling our best is so human - which is also healthy.
I see it as our natural curiosity to wonder what it’s like to test our limits. It’s interesting to go against the grain of what is “right.” It’s fun to experiment and imagine ourselves not having to rely on our habits to make us feel okay.
I emphasize the phrase feeling “myself” because what each of us needs to feel like ourselves is so different. It is up to us as individuals to discover what we need to live our most full lives. The times when I am at my lowest are always when I’m not feeling like myself - when I can’t fully express myself; when the characteristics of myself that I know to be true are just not manifesting, when I’m doing things that are against what I think is right for me. When what I think, say, and do is not in harmony.
When are you at your lowest? And what steps can you take to prevent yourself from reaching this point?
It is during these times that it’s helpful to tap into our introspective instincts that we all have. We have the ability to get to know ourselves better. We just need to be open to discovering.
After a period of some chaos, I’m ready to trust myself in knowing what I need. I started with some sleep. Surprise, surprise - I woke up with a much clearer head than I have in a while. For me, sleep is the solution to a lot (if not all) of my problems (as it is for most people). Yet sometimes we ignore its importance. But hey, there are times when we need to choose what’s “right” for us in that moment versus what will make us feel good later. But then we get back on track. We reset and we start the cycle over again. Trust that you will get back on track.
Resetting and acknowledging what we need is important for our own development. Much needed rest & relaxation is in store for me today. A fall day with a candle lit and some green tea by my side will do the trick.
What do you need to do to make you feel whole today?